Forgive and Forget? Part 1 of 2: Sometimes, Maybe.
For the past week, I‘ve been rethinking whether ‘forgive and forget’ is a good idea and found recommendations like Sydney Banks’, “If we can forgive everyone, regardless of what he or she may have done, we nourish the soul and allow our whole being to feel good.”
The spiritual teacher Sri Chimnoy, who lived to uplift humanity, advised, “Forgive, you will have happiness. Forget, you will have satisfaction. Forgive and forget, you will have everlasting peace, within and without.”
Frederick Lenz said, “Our task is to bring ourselves resolutely more and more into light, to forgive and forget …because to remember them is only to keep problems in mind.” Hmmm. Sometimes, keeping problems in mind is a good idea.
I smile when reading Confucius’s advice, “Before you embark on a journey of revenge, dig two graves.” My smile broadens and brightens when reading Sue Grafton’s, words, “I know there are people who believe you should forgive and forget. For the record, I’d like to say I’m a big fan of forgiveness as long as I’m given the opportunity to get even first.”
William P. Young had a point when he said, “Forgiveness is not about forgetting. It is about letting go of another person’s throat.” The source for the next quote wasn’t located, “I prefer to hate and remember than forgive and forget.” My next post will show why these points of view have merit. After all, the goal here is to Succeed and Soar.