This year, Succeed and Soar explores eight, enlightening words. The first was Traumatic Wisdom, when hurtful experiences can elevate and enrich.This post considers, Conditional Love. Of it, Donald Miller said, “No love is conditional. If love is conditional, it’s just some sort of manipulation masquerading as love.” Conditional Love has strings attached. It can exist between friends and within families. WildSimpleJoy says that in these situations, the ‘loved one:’

• Rarely feels good enough
• Is adored in public but not in private
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If wondering whether a relationship involves Conditional Love, ask:

• If the ‘loved one’ lost their job, would you stay with them? Would they stay with you?
• Do you [or they] take more than is given?
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To avoid being a Conditional lover:

• Use conflict as a learning experience [rather than to control]
• Practice non-judgment
• Learn the other’s love language.
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As Romantific says, “conditional love is not much better than unconditional love. Usually, with unconditional love, you were iin love in the beginning and now are able to accept the flaws of another person. With conditional love, true love was never there because you were only in the relationship because you wanted to “get something” out of it (more money, a higher social status, etc.). Here’s more

With spring approaching, romance in the air and the world brightening, think of Kim McMillen’s words. “When I loved myself enough, I began leaving whatever wasn’t healthy. This meant people, jobs, my own beliefs, and habits – anything that kept me small. My judgment called it disloyal. Now I see it as self-loving.”

Remember Courtney A. Walsh’s invitation,

Courtney Walsh’s book Dear Human: A Manifesto of Love and Invocation to Humanity is currently out of print. Copies can be found at alibris, biblio  and abebooks.

Here are Five powerful ways to love yourself more

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